In this world it seems that most girls are so curious about relationships “When is it okay to kiss a boy?” they ask. “How do I get a guy to notice me?” “Is it appropriate to talk to him outside of school? Where? For how long?” Questions like this bring me back to a show I watched where a father told his daughter, “No dating until you’re 35!” Even thought he was only joking, I feel this father understood most girl’s need for constant affection. I had my first kiss when I was fourteen and it changed the relationship really fast – too fast. The guy went from a crush to a boyfriend to saying “I love you” in three weeks. (I’m sure I don’t need to spell this out but at fourteen we knew nothing about love and of course that relationship didn’t last much longer than those three weeks.)
The Bible doesn’t ever say, “Thou shalt or shalt not date.” It is pretty clear when it comes to setting appropriate physical boundaries, however. One passage says “there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality” in your life (Ephesians 5:3), and another says “Run from sexual sin!” (1 Corinthians 6:18). Then how on earth are you supposed to be in the same room as your crush? Once the physical component is introduced into a relationship, I feel like I can’t get enough. I think if I just kiss him he’ll like me, and we will be together forever.
Is your relationship or that crush you can’t get out of your mind more about the physical than growing together as a couple? Run. Is it just about meeting up for the next make-out session? Run. Sure, that meets a need now – but what about in the long run? When you give in to temptation it takes absolute control of us. Running from temptation when it first arrives will save much greater heartache in the future.
Prayer: Show me my limit. Show me where to draw the line and help me stay focused on the boundaries at all times – especially when I don’t want to. Teach me why they’re important. Thank you for your grace, mercy, and love. Amen.
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