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The Lord is able to give you much more than this! - 2 Chronicles 25:9

My best friend is beautiful, smart, fun, and godly. She has a heart of gold. So when we started talking about dating I paid extra attention. We discussed the question of godly men and women who aren’t attractive by the world’s standards. Is it possible for attraction to grow? This really got me thinking. I have written a lot about guarding your heart, body, and mind. About being careful not to let lust overtake you in a relationship. But what if lust isn’t the problem? What if the heart is amazing but you don’t feel any attraction?

A solid relationship needs chemistry. I don’t mean lust at first date. Nor do I mean similar interests and hobbies. There needs to be a spark between two people in any kind of relationship. Intimacy matters. If two people are dating with an eye toward marriage, there should be a level of attraction that will one day lead to greater fulfillment. To two becoming one. Song of Songs 5:9 says, “Why is your lover better than all others, O woman of rare beauty? What makes your lover so special?” Would you be able to answer this questions?

Scripture reminds us not to settle for less. There’s a story in the Bible about a young king Amaziah. Trusting in man’s strength instead of God’s he paid 7,500 pounds of silver to hire 100,000 soldiers. But a man of God told him not to rely on his impressive army for victory. He said, “The Lord is able to give you much more than this!” (2 Chronicles 25:9). More. God had something better in mind for Amaziah, and He has the very best in mind for you.

Ancient Greek has several different words for love. The word for passionate, sensual love is eros. Eros doesn’t have anything to do with a person’s physique, haircut, or fashion sense. Instead, it means seeing the beauty inside another person. When you share eros with someone, you see the truth of who God made him or her to be. And what’s a big nose or skinny legs in comparison with that?

Prayer: Help me continue to foster more than my heart, but also my soul and mind for you, your people, and your kingdom. Show me the truth about the people you’ve brought into my life. Amen.