To Date or Not To Date

Like newborn babies, you must crave pure spiritual milk so that you will grow into a full experience of salvation. Cry out for this nourishment, now that you have had a taste of the Lord’s kindness. – 1 Peter 2:2-3

To date or not to date? Today’s question only seems difficult to address because of the culture and world around us. Seventeen magazine teaches preteens that they shouldn’t be satisfied without a boyfriend, and Cosmopolitan markets new articles on relationship, sex, and how to get your man monthly. It’s no wonder Christian books have a difficult time addressing the topic of dating and relationships – and staying single. So how do you answer this question? With everyone dating around you, is it time for you to get on board?

Of course, you have the freedom to go and do as you please. I don’t believe it’s wrong to date simply to learn more about the opposite sex, but keep the end outcome in mind. If you’re not ready for marriage – you’re not financially stable, or your parents don’t think you’re ready – I urge you to be cautious in dating. Once you’ve crossed a line – be it holding hands, kissing fooling around, or having sex – it’s difficult to go back.

It’s easy to be distracted by the fun times and butterflies in dating. But what’s the big rush? Maybe you are the only single person in your neighborhood or church. You’re tired of watching other people’s kids when they go out, and dating seems like the only path to happiness. Or maybe you just want more dating experience. But make sure your timing is also God’s timing. Ask God to show you when you’re ready for a relationship!

Prayer: Sometimes I choose not to listen to you because I don’t like the answer. If the answer is “no” or “wait,” help me do so joyfully. If the answer is “yes,” help me set healthy boundaries in my relationship. Thank you that your timing is perfect! Amen.